My Writings & Thoughts

My life, like yours, is very much a journey.  Here I document some of the stories of the past, some of my hopes for the future, and the things I have learned along the way.  It's a learning process, and one that I hope we can embark on together.
The Day That Changed my Life Forever
The following is an excerpt from my memoir, Walking Towards Cordelia, available now at various online bookstores in both hardcover and paperback as well as Kindle. In many ways, it's hard to believe t...
The Least of These
“What is that?” “Is that a man in drag?” “That’s a facsimile of a woman.” Those are just a few of the comments that have poured in since an ad with my photo on it was posted for an upcom...
No, Matt Chandler, Deconstruction is NOT sexy.
“You and I are living in a day and age where deconstruction — and the turning away from, or leaving the faith — has become some sort of ‘sexy thing to do.’  I contend that if you ever exper...
An open letter to my Evangelical friends
Over the past year, Adventure Church - part of the Foursquare denomination - has been trying to push forward with their purchase of a theatre building in an area that is known to be a sanctuary for th...
The Danger of Amplifying Misinformation
It should come as no surprise that Tucker Carlson says outlandish and shocking things, many of them based on out of context quotes and data to outright lies, using questions to accomplish one goal: ra...
Now you see me... or do you?
Guilty. Guilty. Guilty. The words rang out around the world as we watched with tense anticipation and baited breath, jaws and fists clenched – expecting the worst. The collective sigh that we all br...
The Currency of Fear
Like many of you, I watched in horror as we saw the crowds of protestors descend on the Capitol building in an effort to undermine our democratic process. That horror turned to sadness and heartache a...
Putting Words In My Mouth
Have you ever been in a place where someone has just assumed something based on something you identify with? Perhaps it’s your gender. Your sexuality. The color of your skin. Or, if you’re like me...
The Stories Told On The Margins
I met her on a dating app. Over a year had passed since I had left my home in Fresno and after several months of connecting with scammers and fake profiles, I connected with a queer woman who was just...
Listening to Learn
To be honest, when I came out, I never envisioned myself becoming any sort of activist. I never even envisioned myself living openly as trans. For those who knew me early on into my transition, they m...
Walking and Other Privileges
There were several moments this week when I felt compelled to add my voice to the ones asking for justice for the killing of Ahmaud Arbery. There were also several moments when the cynical side of me ...
The Altars we Build
We’re just over one month into the quarantine, and one of my daily practices is to go for a walk (as weather permits). My morning walk is brisk - the intention being to burn enough calories so that ...
Into the Unknown
A kiss. A simple kiss, and it was done. The officers stepped out of the shadows towards Jesus, who had been praying in the garden. And in a few moments, it was over. Everything that the disciples had ...
Foolishness
It is written: ‘I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, and bring to nothing the understanding of the prudent’. For consider, what have the philosopher, the writer and the critic of this world to s...
Standing Together
“I wonder if God loves me.” For most Evangelical Christians, that’s a statement that never really crosses our mind. At least, it’s not supposed to. And yet, if our exercise earlier this year a...
Selah
Wait.  Pause. Look back.  Ponder. “But I don’t want to!,” my mind races, knowing that in doing so, I’ll end up reliving some of the most painful moments of my life.  And yet…. There’s a...
The Road Less Travelled
Two years ago, when I came out, Evangelical Christianity wasn’t a thought on my horizon, as I really hadn’t been involved in the Evangelical world for almost a decade.  And yet, in fall of 2018, ...
Shalom Means Wholeness
“Peace I leave with you; My peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27 What do you think of when I say the word...
Preparing the Way
Now the people were waiting expectantly, and all of them were questioning in their hearts whether John might be the Messiah. John answered them all, “I baptize you with water, but one who is more po...
By Their Fruit
“If there is no repentance…. ...if they profess to be a Christian, then you have to alienate them…. You have to turn them over to Satan, Scripture says…” John MacArthur answering the questio...
Hope in the Promise
“A baby?,” she asked, trying to hide the incredulousness from her voice. “But how will you…. How will we... “ her voice trailed off, as the worry began to overtake her face. To be honest, I ...
Coming Home
At some point in my journey to find a church home, I lost count of how many churches and ministries I had approached.  Though I never really get used to asking the question - “am I welcome here...
Making Room for Jesus
“Eeeeeeeoooooowwwww!!!!!,” howled the girl from deep within her pain. The steady rhythm of her feet on the path stopped for a moment, as she took a deep breath. “I don’t think I can go much fu...
Where Feet May Fail
“You call me out upon the waters The great unknown where feet may fail. And there I find You in the mystery. In oceans deep My faith will stand. And I will call upon Your name And keep my eyes above...
Sorry Seems to be in Order...
Over the past several months, I’ve attempted to share bits and pieces of my experience transitioning from Darryl to Ellie. And while I feel that there is so much to be said and so many things to tal...
I am a Child of God
“Who knows whether you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” Esther 4:14b, NKJV Over the past year, I’ve worked at trying to share my story as I can to help people to understand the...
On Being Labeled a Bigot
“At the end of the day, the problem is education. Without an educated population, it doesn't matter what other problems you try to tackle. It's not gonna work. Think of how much less powerful campai...
Are You My Neighbor?
“WHAT WERE YOU THINKING???” I still remember that note clearly today, scrawled on a draft copy of a Sunday Program for church. And no, it wasn’t in my handwriting. It was a note from the senior ...
The Fear Is Real
“Don’t try to be fearless or pretend you aren’t impacted by fear. Just try to prevent fear from making your decisions for you.” -Chris Buillebeau I used to say that I was afraid, but I don’t...
Embracing Authenticity
“When you’re engaged and involved and choosing to enjoy your own life it doesn’t matter where you are, or frankly, what negative things get hurtled at you. You’ll still find happiness because ...
One Is The Loneliest Number
“In fewer than three years I had changed from a scared boy into a strong woman. The ability to be happy had been with me all along. All I’d had to do was trust and accept myself.” -Katie Rain Hi...
Mary Anne Saves the Day
“Just once I’d like to go to school wearing skintight turquoise pants, Stacey’s ‘island’ shirt with the flamingos and toucans all over it, and maybe bright red, high-top sneakers. I’d like...
Flowers in the Outfield
My parents used to tell me that in little league, I couldn’t be bothered to actually PLAY the game. In fact, much of my time was spent in the outfield picking flowers, humming to myself, and just bi...

"The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God." (Lev. 19:34)

This is why voting for #Biden is vitally important in the upcoming election. Vote however you want in the primary, but the @GOP is making it known that they want to create national policies that make the entire country unsafe for #trans people.



Perhaps the issue isn't teaching #abstinence so much as it is dismantling the conversation that tells males that "they won't be able to help themselves" and rather building a framework that places value on the humanity of other people.

In order to receive #GenderAffirmingSurgery (Bottom Surgery), I have to endure TWO YEARS of hair removal by electrolysis on the most sensitive area of my body. Look it up. The process is not for the faint of heart, and definitely not for someone who isn't sure.

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"Right now, therefore, every time we get the chance, let us work for the benefit of all..." Galatians 6:10, The Message

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