My life, like yours, is very much a journey. Here I document some of the stories of the past, some of my hopes for the future, and the things I have learned along the way. It's a learning process, and one that I hope we can embark on together.
The following is an excerpt from my memoir, Walking Towards Cordelia, available now at various online bookstores in both hardcover and paperback as well as Kindle. In many ways, it's hard to believe t...
“What is that?” “Is that a man in drag?” “That’s a facsimile of a woman.” Those are just a few of the comments that have poured in since an ad with my photo on it was posted for an upcom...
“You and I are living in a day and age where deconstruction — and the turning away from, or leaving the faith — has become some sort of ‘sexy thing to do.’ I contend that if you ever exper...
Over the past year, Adventure Church - part of the Foursquare denomination - has been trying to push forward with their purchase of a theatre building in an area that is known to be a sanctuary for th...
It should come as no surprise that Tucker Carlson says outlandish and shocking things, many of them based on out of context quotes and data to outright lies, using questions to accomplish one goal: ra...
Guilty. Guilty. Guilty. The words rang out around the world as we watched with tense anticipation and baited breath, jaws and fists clenched – expecting the worst. The collective sigh that we all br...
Like many of you, I watched in horror as we saw the crowds of protestors descend on the Capitol building in an effort to undermine our democratic process. That horror turned to sadness and heartache a...
Have you ever been in a place where someone has just assumed something based on something you identify with? Perhaps it’s your gender. Your sexuality. The color of your skin. Or, if you’re like me...
I met her on a dating app. Over a year had passed since I had left my home in Fresno and after several months of connecting with scammers and fake profiles, I connected with a queer woman who was just...
To be honest, when I came out, I never envisioned myself becoming any sort of activist. I never even envisioned myself living openly as trans. For those who knew me early on into my transition, they m...
There were several moments this week when I felt compelled to add my voice to the ones asking for justice for the killing of Ahmaud Arbery. There were also several moments when the cynical side of me ...
We’re just over one month into the quarantine, and one of my daily practices is to go for a walk (as weather permits). My morning walk is brisk - the intention being to burn enough calories so that ...
A kiss. A simple kiss, and it was done. The officers stepped out of the shadows towards Jesus, who had been praying in the garden. And in a few moments, it was over. Everything that the disciples had ...
It is written: ‘I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, and bring to nothing the understanding of the prudent’. For consider, what have the philosopher, the writer and the critic of this world to s...
“I wonder if God loves me.” For most Evangelical Christians, that’s a statement that never really crosses our mind. At least, it’s not supposed to. And yet, if our exercise earlier this year a...
Wait. Pause. Look back. Ponder. “But I don’t want to!,” my mind races, knowing that in doing so, I’ll end up reliving some of the most painful moments of my life. And yet…. There’s a...
Two years ago, when I came out, Evangelical Christianity wasn’t a thought on my horizon, as I really hadn’t been involved in the Evangelical world for almost a decade. And yet, in fall of 2018, ...
“Peace I leave with you; My peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27 What do you think of when I say the word...
Now the people were waiting expectantly, and all of them were questioning in their hearts whether John might be the Messiah. John answered them all, “I baptize you with water, but one who is more po...
“If there is no repentance…. ...if they profess to be a Christian, then you have to alienate them…. You have to turn them over to Satan, Scripture says…” John MacArthur answering the questio...
“A baby?,” she asked, trying to hide the incredulousness from her voice. “But how will you…. How will we... “ her voice trailed off, as the worry began to overtake her face. To be honest, I ...
At some point in my journey to find a church home, I lost count of how many churches and ministries I had approached. Though I never really get used to asking the question - “am I welcome here...
“Eeeeeeeoooooowwwww!!!!!,” howled the girl from deep within her pain. The steady rhythm of her feet on the path stopped for a moment, as she took a deep breath. “I don’t think I can go much fu...
“You call me out upon the waters The great unknown where feet may fail. And there I find You in the mystery. In oceans deep My faith will stand. And I will call upon Your name And keep my eyes above...
Over the past several months, I’ve attempted to share bits and pieces of my experience transitioning from Darryl to Ellie. And while I feel that there is so much to be said and so many things to tal...
“Who knows whether you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” Esther 4:14b, NKJV Over the past year, I’ve worked at trying to share my story as I can to help people to understand the...
“At the end of the day, the problem is education. Without an educated population, it doesn't matter what other problems you try to tackle. It's not gonna work. Think of how much less powerful campai...
“WHAT WERE YOU THINKING???” I still remember that note clearly today, scrawled on a draft copy of a Sunday Program for church. And no, it wasn’t in my handwriting. It was a note from the senior ...
“Don’t try to be fearless or pretend you aren’t impacted by fear. Just try to prevent fear from making your decisions for you.” -Chris Buillebeau I used to say that I was afraid, but I don’t...
“When you’re engaged and involved and choosing to enjoy your own life it doesn’t matter where you are, or frankly, what negative things get hurtled at you. You’ll still find happiness because ...
“In fewer than three years I had changed from a scared boy into a strong woman. The ability to be happy had been with me all along. All I’d had to do was trust and accept myself.” -Katie Rain Hi...
“Just once I’d like to go to school wearing skintight turquoise pants, Stacey’s ‘island’ shirt with the flamingos and toucans all over it, and maybe bright red, high-top sneakers. I’d like...
My parents used to tell me that in little league, I couldn’t be bothered to actually PLAY the game. In fact, much of my time was spent in the outfield picking flowers, humming to myself, and just bi...
"Right now, therefore, every time we get the chance, let us work for the benefit of all..." Galatians 6:10, The Message
Do you want to join me in doing this work? Are you struggling with wondering if you're really loved by God, just as you are? Are you wondering how to best love your LGBTQ+ child? Reach out - I'd love to hear from you!
